In a loveful relation, power doesn't play such a central role as in other types of relation. Nobody wants to hurt the other and to misuse the own power. Nonetheless, the argument of "power inequality" (based on confusing power difference and misuse of this difference) plays a role in many discussions about pedosexuality. Thus, it is reasonable to look what really happens.
In consensual pedosexual relations, the child has usually a lot of power. This is simply caused by the fact that without the consent of the child there will be no sex. Thus, different from the situation in a non-consensual relation, the sexual desire of the adults increases the power of the child.
Last not least, the child has the power to tell about the sexual relation to parents or police. An exceptional power to send the other into jail, with a potential of misuse (blackmail).
As a result, often a pedosexual relation is the only relation with adults where the child has real power. That's why they are often characterized by the involved children as free and equal (i.e. Tim).
A final assumption about pederatic relationships is that they are unequal, defined by a power imbalance in favour of the older partner, and that this is invariably harmful for the boy.
Observation of relationships between men and teenage boys will reveal that this is sometimes the case. Just as often, the boy may possess physical strength and status (as an ostensibly "straight" young male) which a gay man lacks. On some levels - despite the ageism of society and to some extend because of it - the adolescent male often has more emotional, social and physical power that his queer adult lover.
...relationships between men and boys are hardly the most unequal ones around. They at least know how each other's body functions, which is more than can be said for many partners in heterosexual relationships.
I have had many good times with boys of my own age and men. I think that the boy-man relationship is a relationship that allows for much freedom because, as one message here says, we are the same sex and know how to turn each other on best. I am 16yrs and have had sexual relations (i.e. oral sex, anal sex, masturbation with each other) with at least 75% of my male friends. I have had relationships with about 5 grown men. I feel that this has not harmed me.
Tim