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</table>The Adminshttps://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/index.php?title=Coming_out&diff=29001&oldid=prevThe Admins: /* Official Guidance⁽ᵂʰᵃᵗ ᶦˢ ᵗʰᶦˢˀ⁾ */2024-09-04T09:36:54Z<p><span class="autocomment">Official Guidance⁽ᵂʰᵃᵗ ᶦˢ ᵗʰᶦˢˀ⁾</span></p>
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</table>The Adminshttps://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/index.php?title=Coming_out&diff=15467&oldid=prevThe Admins: /* Official Guidance⁽ᵂʰᵃᵗ ᶦˢ ᵗʰᶦˢˀ⁾ */2022-11-11T18:20:21Z<p><span class="autocomment">Official Guidance⁽ᵂʰᵃᵗ ᶦˢ ᵗʰᶦˢˀ⁾</span></p>
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</table>The Adminshttps://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/index.php?title=Coming_out&diff=15465&oldid=prevThe Admins: /* Official Guidance⁽ᵂʰᵃᵗ ᶦˢ ᵗʰᶦˢˀ⁾ */2022-11-11T18:15:01Z<p><span class="autocomment">Official Guidance⁽ᵂʰᵃᵗ ᶦˢ ᵗʰᶦˢˀ⁾</span></p>
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<tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>::Our advice here is to either '''fully disclose, or not disclose at all''', and this is based upon multiple experiences over a 20 year period. This advice applies as much now as it did 20 years ago, if not more, due to the highly sensitive and fast moving nature of this subject. We may consider revising this advice, but only after the visibility of MAPs has improved considerably. </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>::Our advice here is to either '''fully disclose, or not disclose at all''', and this is based upon multiple experiences over a 20 year period. This advice applies as much now as it did 20 years ago, if not more, due to the highly sensitive and fast moving nature of this subject. We may consider revising this advice, but only after the visibility of MAPs has improved considerably <ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">by way of less adventurous initiatives and people who ignore this advice</ins>. </div></td></tr>
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<tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>::'''Full disclosure of personal details''', will nowadays include a personal website with 1. Your face pic<del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">. </del>2. Your platform<del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">. </del>3. Media contacts and <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">a </del>4. A social media channel, as an absolute minimum. Coming "half out", gives your enemies a fact-finding mission, forcing you onto the defensive. Previous, "fully out" activists have had a hard enough time, and you have to be willing to ''seek and put up with'' this kind of media exposure, otherwise you will be forever protecting yourself from it in a game of cat and mouse. Experience tells us that "half-out" activists will end up getting dragged into [https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Lolcow undignified personal battles] with almost zero visibility and upside exposure. Your enemies will feel emboldened, since they are effectively in control of your personal information. All of these low-level dramas are completely antagonistic to the purpose of ''organized activism''.</div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>::'''Full disclosure of personal details''', will nowadays include a personal website with 1. Your face pic<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">, </ins>2. Your platform<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">, </ins>3. Media contacts and<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">, </ins>4. A social media channel, as an absolute minimum. Coming "half out", gives your enemies a fact-finding mission, forcing you onto the defensive. Previous, "fully out" activists have had a hard enough time, and you have to be willing to ''seek and put up with'' this kind of media exposure, otherwise you will be forever protecting yourself from it in a game of cat and mouse. Experience tells us that "half-out" activists will end up getting dragged into [https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Lolcow undignified personal battles] with almost zero visibility and upside exposure. Your enemies will feel emboldened, since they are effectively in control of your personal information. All of these low-level dramas are completely antagonistic to the purpose of ''organized activism''.</div></td></tr>
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</table>The Adminshttps://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/index.php?title=Coming_out&diff=13685&oldid=prevJessi: Coming out of the toybox2022-08-04T23:24:58Z<p>Coming out of the toybox</p>
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</table>Jessihttps://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/index.php?title=Coming_out&diff=13650&oldid=prevThe Admins at 15:20, 3 August 20222022-08-03T15:20:38Z<p></p>
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</table>The Adminshttps://wiki.yesmap.net/wiki/index.php?title=Coming_out&diff=13468&oldid=prevThe Admins: /* Official Guidance */2022-07-29T22:29:34Z<p><span class="autocomment">Official Guidance</span></p>
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<tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>*To their friends/family. <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">Disclosure is limited to a small, controlled group of confidants. Motivation is an important aspect of this; namely, being assured that no such individual has a ''motive</del>'' <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">to disclose outside the small group. This strategy</del>'<del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">s weakness is that personal motivations and investments can and will change over time. One benefit is that you can slowly come out if and when you please - trying different methods on different individuals at different times. See the section below the activism discussion below, for a full discussion of coming out to friends and family.</del></div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>*<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">'''</ins>To their friends/family.''' </div></td></tr>
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<tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>*As an activist.</div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">::Disclosure is limited to a small, controlled group of confidants. Motivation is an important aspect of this; namely, being assured that no such individual has a ''motive'' to disclose outside the small group. This strategy's weakness is that personal motivations and investments can and will change over time. One benefit is that you can slowly come out if and when you please - trying different methods on different individuals at different times. See the section below the activism discussion below, for a full discussion of coming out to friends and family.</ins></div></td></tr>
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<tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>::Our advice here is to either '''fully disclose, or not disclose at all''', and this is based upon multiple experiences over a 20 year period. This advice applies as much now as it did 20 years ago, if not more, due to the highly sensitive and fast moving nature of this subject. We may consider revising this advice, but only after the visibility of MAPs has improved considerably. </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>::Our advice here is to either '''fully disclose, or not disclose at all''', and this is based upon multiple experiences over a 20 year period. This advice applies as much now as it did 20 years ago, if not more, due to the highly sensitive and fast moving nature of this subject. We may consider revising this advice, but only after the visibility of MAPs has improved considerably. </div></td></tr>
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