Too Young For Euphoria?
Round n round n round I spun at age nine, arms floating wide in the open air; almost as if being helicopter propellers. Sometimes, I’d even lift my feet off the ground testing if I could stay off the ground…I always crashed on the floor, of course…
I remember back to days long before the internet…We did not have all the technical stuff of today, so we needed to find other forms of entertainment; which typically included physical activities.
Like many children, I greatly enjoyed the natural euphoria of driving myself into a state of “stupid dizzy”…That euphoric sensation of losing all sense of balance, falling to the ground and watching the room continue to spin according to your own eyes; of course you could feel it also.
This sensation was a true natural high…Energy was being burned, yet it was being created at the same time, because of the adrenaline rush.
There was no pain. In fact, the feeling was wonderful! It was not just fun, it was carefree…it was stimulating…No matter how long I will live, I will never feel as good as I did back then; during those times…doing all the crazy things I did as a boy…
What is a sensation “too strong for a child to deal with”?…
I can understand attempts to shield a child from severe pain, and things which might threaten bodily injury…but I can not envision a justification in trying to prevent another human being of any age from experiencing a harmless natural state of euphoria.
Recently, I had the opportunity of reading ongoing exchanges between people of opposing viewpoints. The topic was childhood sexuality, and one person holding an opposing viewpoint made a statement I can only describe as…strange…
Apparently, they believe that the chemical changes which occur in the brain during moments of euphoria, are “too much” for a child too be capable of dealing with. Allegedly, they don’t know how too handle it…or what should be done with the emotions that might come with it.
Whether this is more a psychological argument or a biological one, I am not sure. After all, some might further argue that chemical changes in the brain during formative years perhaps can impose a substantial alteration. I don’t know this as being true, but then again it does seem plausible…not necessarily “bad”, but still plausible.
I loved cheese every bit as much as I loved chocolate, back when I was a boy (still do). The explosion of wonderful flavor inside of your mouth, it never ceased too bring great pleasure. It was exciting too experience…much like a trip to the candy store.
Euphoria has many sources, and they all cause a biological change in chemistry…in the brain and through the body.
As a matter of the natural course of living, is it even possible to avoid such things?
They have done studies on this, and concluded that for many people, the level of chemical change in the brain (dopamines I believe) experienced while eating chocolate can rival that of experiencing sexual pleasure…
…Children typically love chocolate…I did as a boy…but, you already know that by now.
The important questions here are…where do you get your euphoria? We all do, after all…it’s just a question of “how”…and how does one form of euphoria differ tangibly from another?
Children spend much of their time and energy, chasing after euphoria; in one form or another…We adults just dismiss it, as being a trivial part of a carefree life; not concerned with the mundane and demanding elements of life…We think it is the simplistic endeavors of an unsophisticated mind…Yet, these sensations and knowledge gained from experiencing them, are invaluable bits of data; which we process and learn to evolve with.
My first orgasm…I was twelve, and had a long history of “working up to it” and easing off…I did not know what I should expect, or even that I should expect anything at all…Such is the abysmal sexual education, when you grow up deeply within the church…
Don’t ask me why, but in my deliciously naughty state of boyish lust, I’d decided that I was going too continue on, even past those early “funny feelings”…I would just keep going, and see what happened…
…Oh!…My!…Freaking!…Gwad!…
A fundamental change in personal body paradigm took place on that day, as I saw my own semen for the first time ever (not to say I’d seen any semen before). It gushed far and wide, all across my bare, smooth chest…almost hitting me in the chin. With warm and slimy goo all over, I had never before felt this absolutely overpowering sense of amazing wonderfulness, in my entire life…and it is tragic that it shall never be that great again, I think.
This was the first of many, countless orgasms I would experience; well before officially hitting puberty a few years later. Like so many boys, I traveled that road of “infamy”…there were never enough orgasms…It was always a good time for an orgasm…once a day…twice a day…every single day…sometimes three times in a day (and once four!)…
Boys and orgasms go hand in hand…They are a typical and natural pairing…It is what a boy will naturally do (girls also, in all honesty) once this incredible discovery is made…and it is not a “bad” discovery…It is amongst the most wonderful natural treasures in the world.
Everybody loves an orgasm, including children…
…but, “can they handle it”?…
I have to ask the obvious question here…
With so many males growing up and masturbating “half” of their childhood and teenage years away…and sexual development experts telling us this is normal…
…How do we make the leap from what we know about human biology, to something which is entirely contrary and incompatible?…such as, “orgasms cause harm”?
I think it is just incredible that anyone could even imply such…even if they do frame it in a sense of, “not being ready for it”. Physical sensations and the orgasm are a lot more primal and simple…There is not an enormous amount of psychology that you “have to get”, in order to experience, love and benefit from them. Physical love is one of the universal languages, after all.
It is the people running around with a grocery list full of demands…”you must get married”…”you must be in love”…”you must have the blessing of others”…”you must follow pop psychology”…”you must not be different”…”you must”, “you must”, “you must”…
…It is these people who pile an endless flood of mental and emotional baggage onto sexuality, the body and how we choose to live our lives…It is these people who will not rest, so long as diversity is allowed to thrive.
“We”, as individuals…on that day we discovered this extreme euphoric joy…we did not have a natural shame too associate with it…it just simply was what it was…
…and it was one freaking incredible ride, which lasted years and years…
How does this measure up?…How does it reconcile with “not being psychologically ready”?
Is it even possible to “not” be psychologically ready to experience an orgasm?…sexual arousal is an ever constantly repeating part of human life, after all…It is there, even at the early ages…the very natural outcome of this state, exists within the orgasm…In part, that is why we become aroused in the first place…
So, why do children of all ages become sexually aroused?…especially if they “weren’t supposed too experience it”? It just seems like a natural, biological progression. The sex drive is there, and you naturally progress and grow with it; as you experience it on a deeper and deeper level.
It makes no sense that following this natural instinct might be something you “are not ready for”…because if you honestly “are not ready for it” while it is occurring in you, then will you ever honestly be ready for it?
…and if you push it away all of your life until you are much older…will you ever be able to approach it with the open honesty, and guiltlessness that you would have, had you been allowed such natural experiences as a child prior to social indoctrination?
“Not ready for it”…”Cant handle it”…
What of the billions of us “pervert” males, who jerked off like crazy as children?…What of those who had the sex?…
We do grow up, you know?…We do take our place in society…We do become regarded as “normal” and respectable people…
In spite of the sexual superstition that “we could not handle it”…we handled it just fine…Indeed, for many of us, it was no trouble at all…quite an enhancement on childhood, honestly…
Of course, I understand that explanation is required at various points in time, to work hand in hand with a child’s real world experiences…and the fallacy is in believing that these children are “never” ready for this imparting of knowledge.
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I’m sure you’re right. What your opponent said seems entirely at odds with what modern medical science now says, that masturbation is harmless–since presumably many, if not most, episodes of masturbation will lead to orgasm.
This was well put – but I would like to distill the biological aspect – what I see as the key point of the argument:
The hormones released upon sexual activity by adults are the cause of euphoria and that “satiated” feeling. The same hormones are released when a child masturbates, and cause similar feelings. I find it utterly ridiculous that young children would have the evolved (or extant) capacity for this “destructive” hormonal release, when for milennia, in most pre-western societies they would have been exposed to sexual contact with much older persons in great enough a number to adapt a defense mechanism.
Maybe you should have named this article “too old to understand”, considering one of its subjects.
After the death of God, the Enlightened West tried to make Science their new god. Turns out, ‘science’ is a poor replacement. Yet still our desperate world attempts to find universalizing principles via deconstruction and dissection.
The physiological unreadiness argument is an interesting and novel twist. But ultimately it is merely the latest in the line of narratives which medicalize sex – a process which will always be imbued with whatever ‘values’ its adherents wish to promulgate, since ’emotions’ are inseparable from the cultural dogma attached to a particular activity.
Are young people ‘capable’ of ‘dealing with the emotions’ generated when they are tickled so much that they wet themselves laughing? Is that the subject of scientific research? If not, why not? To answer my own question, the simple fact is that there are vested interests in castrating young people and maintaining their allegiance to The Family. Consequently, ‘medicalization’ merely starts with from the desired conclusion (young people should not have sex) and seeks to demonstrate a plausible rationale for that conclusion, based on the Scientific deity.
On a personal note, I happily experienced beautiful dry orgasms from the age of 3, at least. I was lucky in that respect – I learned the pleasures of my own body before social indoctrination had had chance to take root. If only all young people were so fortunate. The only harmful emotions are those instilled by society. Orgasms are infinitely more pleasurable before any of those emotions are learned.
Thank you for the responses.
Stephen, yes…For me, I just find it absolutely ludicrous that anybody would suggest that one of the most typical human experiences in our existence (discovery of the orgasm at a young age), damages a human being. That is a very old myth, based out of population control and often preserved by religion (as it’s agent).
If this was so “detrimental”, how did we all manage to survive?…and what of those who loved it?…
Their “detriment” typically translates to “moral compromise”, if we are honest in breaking down their views. Nobody has been hurt in a literal sense…but, if a child is allowed to become a sex lover then they will pigeonhole him into “perversity”…and he wont be part of “their club” anymore…They only like it when their own numbers are bolstered.
Daniel…
“Maybe you should have named this article “too old to understand”, considering one of its subjects.”
That could be. As I mentioned, it is a very old sexual superstition that the orgasm causes harm in young people (including children). This inconvenient truth (for the moral imperialists out there) is often attacked with fairy tales of doom and gloom…but that is all they are…baseless accounts.
People do not naturally go crazy from having orgasms, no matter how many they have…nor is their growth stunted, nor are they prone towards growing up maladjusted (unless they do nothing but have sex all of their lives).
Strato…
You never fail to please with absolutely great responses…
I think we think a lot alike…Even though I do have deep respect for the true scientific process, I have been calling the papers and articles which result from today’s research “the modern day scriptures”, for years now.
In fact, I was just writing something about this topic a few hours ago.
Science can be hijacked for dogmatic purposes, just like anything else…and people can base their lives and actions around it, even though the unknowns far outweigh what is known…We get dragged along with the hype and the panic (and it’s fallout), whether “we” believe it or not…just like a religious surge going on around the “heathen”.
I likewise think that this is just another evolution of the same old thing…tossing up highly doubtful but theoretically plausible (at least to the ill educated) arguments, just to keep “something” there to block progress or resolution in this conflict.
“On a personal note, I happily experienced beautiful dry orgasms from the age of 3, at least. I was lucky in that respect…”
I have been given similar accounts, several times by a number of different people over the years.
You have no idea how green with envy I feel. 😉
Of course there were substantial acts of masturbation, which I recall going back many, many years prior to my first orgasm…but the orgasm was absent…I could tell stories…true stories…
I’ve often wondered how things might have been different, if there were orgasms for me back then…I feel like I lost something by not having them.
You may be interested to know that I have a hotline to God.
He told me that, originally, he had provided a ‘safety valve’ for releasing feelings.
It is the right – and/or sometimes the left – hand.
I don’t think the two euphorias can be compared…its different chemicals processes happening in our body after all.
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Well, thanks for the spam, Heath…and your thoughts…
Would you like to elaborate, on just how these chemical processes are so different?
The base thought that this essay was confronting, is the one parroted by many self appointed “child advocates”, where in, they claim that the sensations (euphoria) which come along with sexual activity are “too much” for a child to deal with…as though they were any less capable than adults…
…There is nothing to support this.