Debate Guide: Misdefinitions and Rhetorical Manipulation
To promote a consistent and amicable debate, you must be on the same page as your opponent with language. Opponents will misdefine common phrases in order to get away with indefensible arguments. As far as labelling is concerned, remember to make the point there is no such thing as 'the pedophile', no more so than 'the heterophile/homophile'. Minor attracted people have no essential characteristics that distinguish them, save their attractions are strongly directed towards younger people. Therefore, MAPs should not be the exclusive targets of depersonalization. Point out the following examples:
Pedophilia
Pedophilia is commonly, and often simultaneously, misdefined as:
- "Child Sexual Abuse" or "a crime"
- "Minor-adult sex"
- "Attraction to minors" or "attraction to a considerably younger person"
- "Pornographic material featuring minors", or "Child Pedophilia" (a common malapropism)
- ...even as a "social issue/problem/topic"
Pedophilia is a sexual attraction towards prepubescent children.
Dictionaries provide basic definitions, e.g. 'sexual desire directed towards children' (Oxford, 1991), and sometimes specify the colloquial uses. Sexual contact with a child or minor should not automatically qualify a person as a Pedophile. Not only does the etymology of Pedophilia not relate to such behavior, but most of these crimes are conducted by non-pedophiles. Diagnostic criteria clearly state that a pedophilic attraction must be present, and various experts and child-protection agencies also point this out.[1][2]
Hebephilia and Ephebophilia
You can introduce these chronophilias alongside a critique of your opponent's definitions. Hebephilia is defined as a sexual attraction towards pubescents. Ephebophilia is more controversial, since the target (post pubescent youth, sometimes defined as late teens) is sexually mature, making the attraction a so-called "normophilia".
Minor Attracted Person
Often characterized as "Newspeak", or "Orwellian" "loaded language", the use of this criticism is an inversion of reality that exposes whoever uses it as a cultist. Language loading means entrenching ideology within vocabulary so that people can't speak or think outside of it. Anti "groomer" cultists, conspiracy theorists and victimological/"radical" feminists use it to mean not entrenching ideology, since their own lexicon is itself heavily loaded.
Pederasty
This is a word for practiced erotic love between a man and adolescent/pubescent boys. It derives from "boy love" the combination of “παίδ-” (the Greek stem for boy or child) with “ἐραστής” (Greek for lover; cf. “eros”). It has been manipulated in variable ways during modern times, referring to the anal penetration of underage boys, homosexuality, or any form of child rape.
Abuse, molestation
These terms may be adopted by your opponent, but should be challenged, and not adopted as parameters of debate. Use more neutral terms yourself, such as "minor", "teen", "age-discrepancy", "sexual"/"genital contact", "intimacy".
The most likely reason you will not be able to force your opponent to adopt trauma-neutral language, is they will quote studies concluding that "child sexual abuse" is uniquely and intensively harmful. These false-diagnostics are based upon methodological and sampling flaws that are as common as they are predictable. Thankfully, methodology has been improving over the last couple of decades, with many of the confounding variables being weeded out. Still, you must point out precisely how the evidence conflicts with theirs, instead of just linking it.
Fucking
This is an objectifying term that presents sexual intimacy as something that is done by an older partner unto a younger one. It assumes penetration, the direction of penetration, and thus has coercive overtones. A reasoned debate can only be had if the very definitions that we use are objective, and preferably shared by all sides of a debate. The well-known author and feminist, Patrick Califia, has noted that if engaging in sexual relations with their partners, boylovers generally show more concern for the pleasure of their partners than does the average heterophile.
Rape
Opponents will often attempt to use the term "rape" in an arbitrary/statutory manner, defining lack of "informed consent" as the only necessary feature. This is problematic, since consent is itself an arbitrary concept. By defining rape arbitrarily, we undermine the gravity of traumatic experiences, while attempting to reinterpret positive lived experiences as abuse. This is unhelpful, and counter to evidence collected in relation to the experiences of children and minors.
'Normal' / 'Normality'
If your opponent uses this term, be sure to point out that it is an entirely relative concept. You should suggest that 'normal' only means "relatively common". Female inferiority? Slavery? White supremacy? Castration of sexual deviants? All of these were considered normal.
Other manipulations
- We consider abuse of grammar and phraseology a separate topic. See Debate Guide: Abuse of language.
The use of persuasive effect in language is an important part of debate. When possible, the use of superficial rhetoric, especially that which builds upon misdefinitions should be identified and dismissed.
"Sexual relationships" as an example
An opponent may deliberately or unknowingly profit from rhetorical effect by holding adult-minor sexual interactions to a "sexual relationship" standard. By using the language "sexual relationship", your opponent is mentally superimposing traditional adult relationship models upon the hypothetical age-disparate relation in question. The Western "adult" relationship norm is constructed to satisfy the needs and rights of modern, western "adults", mainly heterosexuals, and not younger people and their partners. See, for example how homosexuals, following their own liberation, have been fast to adopt more open and casual relationship models via the internet and GPS dating apps. These permit and encourage casual connections based on raw attraction, absent traditional factors such as romance and commitment.
Another assumption embedded in this langage, is the idea that a relationship involving sexual intimacy is necessarily and primarily a "sexual relationship". Other factors are neglected, since our preconception of a "pedophile" relationship is heavily biased; indeed, the sex is under an undue level of scrutiny. MAPs frequently complain of how their personal experiences are being sexualized by wider society.
Accounts and research might help us understand how these relations may eventually develop under a youth emancipation model.
Addressing non-constructive/low-quality opponents
Some members of bulletin boards are fond of shouting from the sidelines while making absolutely no constructive points at all.
Never forget - there are lurking members and at least twice as many non - members viewing the discussions on a bulletin board. So hyperbolic rebuttals and expressed disgust (lest they happen) are by no means the end of a debate. In fact, when others overshoot - it may only serve to give power to your side of the debate.
Linking an opponent's disruptive behavior with their beliefs may work if it is done carefully, but indifference or a humorous reply is more likely to undermine their efforts. If the board has a good moderation policy, it may be worthwhile reporting threatening or accusative content to moderators, although such "lawyering" often undermines your credibility, and risks validating flippant, insulting remarks. Remind yourself that with the rule of reason on your side, you should never be effectively countered with jibes, which are themselves easily dismissed.
"Concise Lede" approach
If you feel that a "point by point" response to an over-reacting, emotional, repetitive, fallacious/low-quality opponent has effectively obscured your core contentions, it may be worthwhile to summarize your objection at the start of a post. Considering that your contributions may be "TL;DR" for most readers, it is important to emphasize your main contention at the beginning of each large post, explaining why it has not changed in light of new argument. It is also advisable to relate back to your main contention/s, if you are addressing bulky, tangential arguments that may serve to distract.